And thanks for providing the playlist. I love when authors do that. I had one from when I did the first draft of my book in the 1990s and another from when I finally finished it last year. Music is an essential part of the writing process.
Yeah, I have sang in bands for 25 years now so it's just such a natural thing to make playlists based on life events. Are yours on Spotify? I'd love to hear them!
Haha I click on things, I'm listening right now. I'm here to make connections. I have a mate who absolutely loves CAKE, they're like his favourite band. This playlist looks cool, I feel like I'm in Dawson's fuckin' Creek right now hehe
Thanks for the comments man, and have a good Sunday.
I wonder how many men are like this. I'm older than you, with the same regrets, and I didn't have nearly as much fun along the way.
My isolation is due to some things beyond my control, but I read this and I wonder how many men are in the same boat, staring at 40, searching for meaning with no women and no kids to share life with.
Is the loneliness of being alone worse than the loneliness of being in a bad marriage? All my friends are on their second wives, and they have all been clear upgrades. But they all insist being in a bad marriage is worse than never being married at all.
Easy to say, from the other side of the fence. Once I realized I was never going to have kids of my own I got obsessed with the idea of leaving something for the world. Helping young people in some way, even if I could only reach a few with my books. Or trying to be a mentor if I couldn't be an uncle or a dad.
Men become increasingly other-directed as they age, and this urge to teach, to share, to give back is only going to get stronger as the years go by.
Best to get ahead of it, and start doing whatever you can to contribute to the future, because the urge to do it is just going to grow from here.
And if you stumble upon any miraculous advice for dealing with it mentally, please let me know which part of the book that is.
Hey man, thanks for reading and for your in-depth comment.
I did have a lot of fun, but at a lot of other peoples expense throughout the years, which is what a lot of this book seeks to address.
I imagine a lot of men are in this position of ours, however most of my friends are married and some have children, I am certainly the odd one out in that (and a lot of other respects).
I agree that a bad relationship is worse than being single and alone, but that doesn't negate how difficult being single and alone is after a certain age and going into the next chapter of your life.
I admire your efforts to help others, and I hope that does bring you some joy. I understand the desire which strengthens with age, I am in a vastly different situation in my life to the man I was in this book, and have new things to focus my efforts on.
I have no miraculous advice, and had a very bad start to the year. If I was to give any at all, it would be not to give up on the idea of romantic love, no matter how much the world tries to brutalise you into that, either by your own circumstances or external ones. You must never blackpill, or succumb to any type of inceldom. That is death, no man will make it alone, no man will make it without women.
And also creation, in lieu of a family and all that white-picket fence shit, you must create, which I see that you already do, never stop!
So it's just that, don't ever give up on romantic love, no matter how much the internet, dating apps and "red pill" bullshit tries to destroy your spirit. There is someone out there who will appreciate you for you, I am sure of it.
And thanks for providing the playlist. I love when authors do that. I had one from when I did the first draft of my book in the 1990s and another from when I finally finished it last year. Music is an essential part of the writing process.
Yeah, I have sang in bands for 25 years now so it's just such a natural thing to make playlists based on life events. Are yours on Spotify? I'd love to hear them!
LOL, my stuff is cheesy pop stuff for an action movie soundtrack. I'll have to dig up the current version, here's the 1990s throwback. https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4InfY0a76uhy2hgy4pbGBs?si=uTfws9HzTUCLaKfLuzu3Ag
Nobody clicks on this stuff, dude. But I appreciate authors who care enough to put in the effort.
Haha I click on things, I'm listening right now. I'm here to make connections. I have a mate who absolutely loves CAKE, they're like his favourite band. This playlist looks cool, I feel like I'm in Dawson's fuckin' Creek right now hehe
Thanks for the comments man, and have a good Sunday.
I wonder how many men are like this. I'm older than you, with the same regrets, and I didn't have nearly as much fun along the way.
My isolation is due to some things beyond my control, but I read this and I wonder how many men are in the same boat, staring at 40, searching for meaning with no women and no kids to share life with.
Is the loneliness of being alone worse than the loneliness of being in a bad marriage? All my friends are on their second wives, and they have all been clear upgrades. But they all insist being in a bad marriage is worse than never being married at all.
Easy to say, from the other side of the fence. Once I realized I was never going to have kids of my own I got obsessed with the idea of leaving something for the world. Helping young people in some way, even if I could only reach a few with my books. Or trying to be a mentor if I couldn't be an uncle or a dad.
Men become increasingly other-directed as they age, and this urge to teach, to share, to give back is only going to get stronger as the years go by.
Best to get ahead of it, and start doing whatever you can to contribute to the future, because the urge to do it is just going to grow from here.
And if you stumble upon any miraculous advice for dealing with it mentally, please let me know which part of the book that is.
Great stuff
Hey man, thanks for reading and for your in-depth comment.
I did have a lot of fun, but at a lot of other peoples expense throughout the years, which is what a lot of this book seeks to address.
I imagine a lot of men are in this position of ours, however most of my friends are married and some have children, I am certainly the odd one out in that (and a lot of other respects).
I agree that a bad relationship is worse than being single and alone, but that doesn't negate how difficult being single and alone is after a certain age and going into the next chapter of your life.
I admire your efforts to help others, and I hope that does bring you some joy. I understand the desire which strengthens with age, I am in a vastly different situation in my life to the man I was in this book, and have new things to focus my efforts on.
I have no miraculous advice, and had a very bad start to the year. If I was to give any at all, it would be not to give up on the idea of romantic love, no matter how much the world tries to brutalise you into that, either by your own circumstances or external ones. You must never blackpill, or succumb to any type of inceldom. That is death, no man will make it alone, no man will make it without women.
And also creation, in lieu of a family and all that white-picket fence shit, you must create, which I see that you already do, never stop!
So it's just that, don't ever give up on romantic love, no matter how much the internet, dating apps and "red pill" bullshit tries to destroy your spirit. There is someone out there who will appreciate you for you, I am sure of it.